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Forget Preserving the Status Quo – Find New Energy!

by Diane Sweeney on February 2, 2016


“The more you are afraid of dying, the more energy you devote to preserving yourself.

And that means less energy to spend on trying new things.”


While reading my daily devotional in The Word Among Us, this line was part of the reflection.

It stopped me.

The meditation is in reference to Hebrews 2:14 … “that through death he might destroy the one who has the power of death.”

The scripture, of course, refers to Jesus and the Devil.

I re-read it several times. ‘the more energy you devote to preserving yourself.’

How much of our life is spent on maintaining the status quo? Meeting other’s expectations. Doing the ‘right’ thing?

There are reasons to do some of that some of the time. We all need a certain amount of stability in our lives. Eat three meals, get 8 hours of sleep, take care of those who truly need our care, etc.

But now, as a woman of a certain age  – if you’ve raised a family, held down a decent job to pay the bills, worked your buns off at the gym, served on all the right committees and boards – is it time to do something else or to do what you are doing differentlyOr – for grins and chuckles – do less than you were doing before?

Imagine you can stop all the need to be busy, busy, busy all the time and find more time to just enjoy life?

Scripture and the interpreter are telling us it is FEAR that keeps us focused on the mundane instead of the opportunities that await. On earthly things instead of the possibility of a glorious and fun life!

Fear will keep you frozen. It will preserve you. It will keep you in your original state. It will not allow you to blossom and grow into the life you were pre-destined to live on earth. And, quite possibly, it will prevent you from moving freely into eternal life.

What are you preserving? Your looks, your huge home, your bank account, your need to hang on to tradition?

If you feel yourself bored and craving more, then it is time to step out into the big, wide world!

Even if it means stopping all the busy-ness and reading a book you’ve wanted to read forever on your sofa!

Some women do this by no longer dying their hair. Others tell their family that the holidays will now be spent in remote places – no more tree, decorations or holiday cooking. There is the whole tiny house movement – and for some women – it’s just a tiny house of their own in their current backyard!

In reference to a faith-filled life – it is the same. God is telling us not to fear dying – but to step out and do all that he created you to be. Do what you know to be right, but have fun doing it. He’ll take care of the rest.

Spend time this week thinking about how you are using your energy to ‘preserve’ out of fear instead of belief and how you can take the first step to doing something different?

Let us know where you will be no longer preserving, but throwing open the door to opportunity! Your first step can be being an inspiration to others.

Inspiring comments are welcome below!

Boomerang Kids creating Boomerang Hearts

by Diane Sweeney on January 26, 2016


A Boomerang – A curved, flat piece of wood that can be thrown so as to be able to be returned to the thrower.

A boomerang returns to where it was sent from.

It’s also what we currently call that time period when your kids come back home to live after college.

Statistics show one in 5 adults in their 20’s and 30’s is living home. And 60% still receive financial support from their parents.  A generation ago it was one in ten. And back in the 50’s and 60’s – most people were married in their early twenties and out on their own.

This current generation of moving back home is primarily due to a series of economic setbacks and outrageous tuition loans.

And if it’s happening to you, there are all sorts articles and blogs to advise you on how to handle this chapter of life.
There is advice about how to handle the living arrangements.
Talk about how your boomerang kids can ruin your retirement
And reasons to enjoy when your son and daughter return home.

Boomeranging Heart

Last May, my youngest had returned to the nest after graduation to start a job with a local firm. The plan was to put away a little cash, start to pay down the school loans, and move out within a year or so.

Fine. Good. We all were doing well. We had it figured out.

We were enjoying having his humor and laugh back home. He still did his thing, we did ours and we came together to watch football, enjoy meals and commiserate over work.

In the fall, he had an opportunity to interview with a company he really wanted to work for.

They made an offer. He got the position. In another city. Not too far away – just down the 95 corridor. Far enough away for him to create his own, new life, but close enough to see one another regularly. Perfect! [click to continue…]

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