Decision Making & Who to Listen To

by Diane Sweeney on February 19, 2014

decision makingSome major decision making is going on within my circles these last few weeks. 

A couple of friends and family members have announced the need for change in their current work or life situation. 

Where they have initiated steps to fulfill their desires to create new roads to their dreams, the immediate pathways that are showing up for them are not the ones they expected to follow.


As a former control freak, this kind of makes me crazy.


Don’t we all have the right and the ability to choose our own path – be it good or bad for us? 

Shouldn’t we be able to wake up in the morning, decide we want to do something different, and begin to follow that path? 

Of course we should! And of course we can! 


But thank goodness we live in a society that shows us the boundaries within which we can make those decisions.


After years of wrestling with the ideas of control and independence, I recognize now that each of us is totally in control of what we want to do, but the path to get there is not as simple as slipping out of bed, putting on a new hat and pushing to a new place. 

You might have the idea of what you want to do differently from what you are currently doing, but for major life decisions, there has to be some type of planning and preparation put into place in order to get to the destination where one believes they will be happier. 

Even if it’s only making a plane reservation. 

Sometimes, however, we need to listen to the person who advises not now – but later. 

Not this way, but that way. 

The person I listen to most is Jesus. And he has shown me time and time again that He will provide me with all I need and most of what I want, but not necessarily in the way that I had hoped to achieve it. 

Yet, when I ask, he does respond. I just need to stay alert to see where he plants those responses. 

Today, in answer to my prayer to guide those I love, he provided me with readings from James 1 

“Consider it all joy, my brothers and sisters, when you encounter various trials, for you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. And let perseverance be perfect, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” 

And again in Mark 8: 11-13 where Jesus responds to the Pharisees request for a sign, “Why does this generation seek a sign?” 

Jesus is the sign – plain and simple – right in front of them. What more do we need than to have faith in Him who speaks the truth; the Word of God?” 

I then went on to my current reading, Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich”, which is as much a book about faith and living to your destiny, as it is a business reference. 

“One of the major points I (Napoleon Hill) am trying to emphasize through the entire philosophy – that we rise to high positions or remain at the bottom because of conditions we can control if we desire to control them. I am also trying to emphasize another point, namely, that both success and failure are largely the results of habit!” 


I have no doubt that my reading those words WERE a sign from above that my loved ones (and I) should continue to pursue our dreams through mindful, purpose-filled practices. 

As we journey through mid-life, family transitions, career-breaking or retirement decisions, we need to stay alert to the signs guiding us to the path that is best. 

If you are at a decision making point in your life, trying to decide which path to follow, listen carefully for the signs, become informed about your choices,  and then place it all in the hands of God. 

It’s just easier that way!

Have you received a sign that one path was better than another? Share your story with us in comments.

To your best life!










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